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Jeanie Patterson… my friend

Jeanie and her dog Elvis in front of Sweetwater

Jeanie and her dog Elvis in front of Sweetwater

Hot Tuna album cover…

My Friend Jeanie
Saturday, March 9, 2019

As I was waking this morning a text message popped up on my phone. It was so ironic to me to that here I was in the Bay Area playing Sweetwater in Mill Valley only to find out that Jeannie Patterson who founded Sweetwater so many years ago had passed. The first time I met Jeanie in the early 80’s she became a dear friend as we shook hands. That’s just how she was. When you met Jeannie you always felt that you had known each other since you were kids.

Jeanie had a deep and abiding passion for life. I am not here to speak for her but I always felt that her life was an open cathedral for the music and that for many, the holiest of the Holies was to be found in that little venue on Throckmorton. My friend, Bob Weir, always said we were like the gunslingers on Gunsmoke and Jeanie was our Miss Kitty. She was that and more. She gave all of us pickers and singers a place to speak our truth and be heard with respect… even over the din of the bar that was about ten feet from the stage.

That’s how it was.

Jeanie and my father, Jorma Sr., were pals. He hung out there frequently and they became confidants. When my dad’s life began to reel itself in after his first stroke, Jeanie was always there for him and my mom. When my dad passed, we had his memorial at Sweetwater. Jeanie was always more than available for her friends!

A parent is not supposed to outlive their children and when her two sons Tro and Taylor passed within a couple of years from each other it took a piece of her heart that could never be replaced. We try to be there for our friends but as a parent, that is a loss I simply cannot grasp… and I hope I never do. The economic landscape in California in general and Mill Valley in particular began to price Jeanie out of the game and she finally sold that little sacred ground and moved to Southern California and became more than reclusive. We would email each other periodically and both of us would allow that we should probably get together before it was too late. A couple of months ago I actually picked up the phone and called her. Indeed, I had her number for years but I had never used it. Sometimes the phone is just too heavy to pick up but this time I did pick it up and made the call. She answered much to my amazement and we talked for quite a while. It was almost as if no time had passed at all. At the end of the day, friends are friends. I felt at the time that she was ready to come back to the world and grace us all with her presence one more time.

According to the article I just read she died on the 26th of last month. Life is filled with ‘Things that might have been’ moments and I guess this is another one. There is always light in the world, but to me it is just a little darker today. I’m glad we had a chance to talk one more time. As something of a country boy myself I always enjoyed her mid-western earthiness. She never lost that… ever.

If you believe in such things she is now back with her boys and perhaps she still has a moment or two to get together with my dad and speak of the world as they saw it. I’m sure I’m not the only one being grateful today for having had the opportunity to call Jeanie Patterson friend.

Fair winds and following seas sister… fair winds and following seas. I am one of the many who will never forget you!

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  1. Robert Burke
    March 9th, 2019 at 12:44 | #1

    You always bring a lot of respect to the issue of one’s death. Sorry for your loss.

  2. johno
    March 9th, 2019 at 13:17 | #2

    She sounds like a wonderful lady. It is ironic that you’re in California and playing Sweetwaters this weekend. Death Don’t Have No Mercy. I was just listening to that song yesterday. It’s so true.

  3. Joey
    March 9th, 2019 at 16:09 | #3

    A very moving testament Jorma.
    Rock it out tonight!

  4. carey georgas
    March 10th, 2019 at 09:03 | #4

    “At the end of the day, friends are friends”. Neither time nor distance matter. To have that affirmed by a conversation with some one after a period of absence is one of the most comforting things I know. To pick up like it was yesterday affirms the nature and value of a true friend. I find the older I get, the more meaningful those encounters become. The true measure of an intangible bond.

  5. Ham Neggs
    March 10th, 2019 at 11:24 | #5

    Sorry for your loss.
    Prayers and thoughts to you and your family and friends.
    May you be blessed with happy memories and “Good Grief” as Mr. Romney would say.
    Peace
    Love All Ways

  6. Anna Stegemoeller
    March 10th, 2019 at 16:32 | #6

    …’and became more than reclusive.’ Maybe sometime you’ll write about your views, in general, on that lifestyle choice, or point to some songs that hold the feelings of it. You do indeed bring a lot of respect to the issue of one’s death…always inspiring. Thank you.

  7. Anna Stegemoeller
    March 10th, 2019 at 16:33 | #7

    Well said, Robert.@Robert Burke

  8. Tom Fabry
    March 11th, 2019 at 08:09 | #8

    Sorry for your loss.
    It is always good to listen to that still small voice….It is good you picked up that heavy phone…

  9. Mitch Spector
    March 11th, 2019 at 09:19 | #9

    Sorry Jorma !! R.I.P Jeanie

  10. Barb Withers
    March 11th, 2019 at 12:43 | #10

    I used to live in Mill Valley in the early 80’s and used to drop by the Sweetwater frequently and met Jeannie once. I loved the Sweetwater and I remember thanking her for having such a wonderful little place where you could hear such great music. And, Jorma, I saw you there and that was the first time I saw you perform! I am so sorry to hear of her passing and I do hope she gets to see her beloved sons Taylor and Tro.

  11. Dan
    March 11th, 2019 at 17:47 | #11

    Sorry for your loss, but lessons learned, I have been picking up that heavy phone and reconnecting with folks. Like you said Captain, its as if the years had never passed. Thanks for your wisdom (BTW one of my favorite CD’s)

  12. HOGAN
    March 13th, 2019 at 08:35 | #12

    Sad news indeed…

    :-(

  13. Larry Peterson
    March 18th, 2019 at 19:33 | #13

    I absolutely believe she is back with her boys! God bless all.