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Brother Ray Heads For The Shore

Ray at 24

Ray at 24

Poster by Kevin Morgan

Brother Ray Heads For The Shore
Monday, April 15, 2019

Here at the Fur Peace Ranch we just concluded another amazing weekend with Larry Campbell and myself as teachers and Larry, Teresa, Justin and Jesse as the concert. Well, they dealt me in for the second set and it is always a joy and an honor to hang with these folks. The circumstances the Ranch never ceases to elevate me from my daily world… always; The giving and receiving from friends, old and new sustains us… it really does!

Time moves on relentlessly, inexorably… because that’s what time does. There is no ‘pause’ button, no ‘rewind…’and absolutely no ‘do overs.’ Sometimes one is part of a story greater that oneself and one of these amazing stories in my life involves the Hurlbut family.

Jorma with Ray on his 95th Birthday

Jorma with Ray on his 95th Birthday

Foto by Vanessa Kaukonen

John Hurlbut has been our Ranch Manager for twenty some years but he and Vanessa and I go way back beyond that. I met Johnny in the early 80’s when Kurt promoted a solo Jorma show and Johnny was somehow involved. We became friends, he and I and his brother Pete, and his friend Wally and Jay the Bass player (now long gone) and a host of Columbus characters; some still with us, some on the shore of the River Of Time.

In 1984 I left twenty years of life in San Francisco and hit the road for the East Coast. It was a long-awaited homecoming. I always was an East Coast kid! I would stop off in Cleveland and Ray and Lucy Hurlbut would let me sleep on a couch in their basement as long as I needed to before the next stage of my journey They would tap me on the shoulder in the morning and coffee and breakfast would be waiting.

When Vanessa and I started out thirty-year relationship in 1988 in Key West, Johnny was down visiting his folks who were snowbirding. He stopped by our pad down by the Southernmost Point and as Vanessa was getting to know him she said, ‘I don’t trust him. He’s too nice.’ But that’s just who he was and that’s who the Hurlbut family is. Our daughter Israel carries the name of three strong women. Israel Love Diana Lucy Kaukonen. Love was my mom’s middle name, Diana was Jack’s beloved wife and Lucy was Ray’s other half. She was Mother to John and Pete and Mary Lou.

The Kaukonen’s will never cease loving and respecting the four generations of Hurlbuts we have come to count as friends and family.

After Lucy passed away eight or nine years ago the relationship that Ray and I shared changed. He was no longer John’s dad to me… he was more like an older brother .I embraced his counsel and he always had a relevant view of current events and family. I loved the man dearly… and still do. Time has a relentless way of leveling the playing field. Ray was born in 1921, flew as a radio operator in bombers in the Pacific in WW II. He had a long and productive life! Today at 1640, Ray Hurlbut went home for the last time. Johnny was able to be there and sing songs and then by the Grace of G_d Ray gently left us… like the passing of a tree. He was 98 years old~!

I could go on, but then I would start repeating myself. Nessa and I got to visit him last Wednesday and we were able to swap hugs and stories. He was still sharp as a tack… the Ray I had known for years. For some time, I had graduated from being Johnny’s friend to being Ray’s brother. It was honor I shall not soon forget!

At moments like this, we all say ‘I’m sorry for your loss.’ The real loss would have been if I had never known the man. He was one of my many blessings. Our friend Wally and his wife Cat visited him the other day and Ray told Wally, ‘Tell my brother Jorma I’ll be saving him a seat next to me on the stage… but tell him not to rush.’ That was Ray.

I will miss the man of course, but the honor was mine to have known him and the rest of his family.

Anchors aweigh my brother and as always… fair winds and following seas.

The Bros...

The Bros...

Foto by Vanessa Kaukonen

The Ladys Man at 98

The Ladys Man at 98

Foto by Jorma Kaukonen

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  1. DennisK
    April 15th, 2019 at 20:22 | #1

    Wow, this is really sad. So sorry for your loss Hurl, Jorma and Vanessa. Ray sounds like a special guy and at 98 he had a good run. I know he will be missed by all who loved him.

    My thoughts are with you all, especially my pal John…Dennis

  2. Joey
    April 15th, 2019 at 22:42 | #2

    My condolences to Hurl, and everyone concerned. Knowing how sweet and kind a man John is, obviously he was raised by special people.
    Thank you for your warm tribute.
    Peace & love♡

  3. carey georgas
    April 15th, 2019 at 23:06 | #3

    Sharing your relationship with the Hurlbut family as you did here is why I come to read your posts and why I think your book is special. The prose you use to express yourself is elevating, even if it’s sometimes difficult. The memories will vanquish the the grief of loss with relative ease, sounds like to me.

  4. Richard
    April 16th, 2019 at 05:50 | #4

    May Ray Rest In Peace..You very often bring a tear to my eye..This time many tears..

  5. Tom Fabry
    April 16th, 2019 at 08:54 | #5

    Peace to Brother John and his loved ones. May his father, Ray, rejoice and be singing in glory, Amen.
    We all must cross the Jordan…Amen.

  6. johno
    April 16th, 2019 at 09:06 | #6

    They sure don’t make them like Ray anymore. He was part of the Greatest Generation. He was in the Pacific theatre of WWII, like my Dad.
    He sounds like a great guy, RIP.

  7. John B
    April 16th, 2019 at 09:30 | #7

    So very sorry to hear of the passing of your Dad Hurl. May God Bless and keep him always along with you and the Tuna family .

  8. Jeff
    April 16th, 2019 at 13:14 | #8

    Beautifully written – you are both blessed

  9. Rick Quinn
    April 16th, 2019 at 19:30 | #9

    John, the memories will give you comfort forever.

  10. Chappy
    April 16th, 2019 at 20:49 | #10

    Thoughts are with John and his family. Had the pleasure of meeting Mr. Hurlbut a couple of years ago at an FPR show. We have sadness in the passing of loved ones…especially family…and joy in all they meant to us. John’s Father lives on in great spirit and memory. Many blessings.

  11. mikie
    April 17th, 2019 at 08:03 | #11

    I seems to me that Mr. H’s major contribution to this world was not as a warrior, but as a lover. That is evident from the love he so apparently instilled in John and his family. That love will shine a long time. m

  12. Mitch Spector
    April 17th, 2019 at 08:26 | #12

    So sorry to hear about Rays passing .Love & prayers Brother John ..Jorma always knows how to tell these life story’s and tributes eloquently . Love to all at this time

  13. gregg
    April 17th, 2019 at 13:33 | #13

    SPOTTED ON A CHURCH BILLBOARD AS I WAS PASSING BY WHEN LIFE GIVES YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN STAND KNEEL G S.I.N.Y.

  14. johno
    April 17th, 2019 at 16:40 | #14

    Hey Gregg what does G S I N Y mean?
    @gregg

  15. gregg
    April 17th, 2019 at 18:23 | #15

    Gregg staten island ny g

  16. Brian Doyle
    April 17th, 2019 at 20:28 | #16

    Have to imagine what it was like to be in one of those bombers in your early 20’s…A high school friend of mine once mentioned his father was crew on an aircraft at Leyte Gulf…Changes the way you look at someone…

    On the bike path I passed an older couple on my bike and heard the older man make a loud involuntary whisper something about “hippy’s” or such…Good to know the pony tail is still working lol!

  17. eaglesteve
    April 19th, 2019 at 10:09 | #17

    zissen Pesach to the Kaukonens and Tuna Nation

  18. April 19th, 2019 at 10:14 | #18

    I feel we’ve all benefited from Ray. RIP. I know there are stars in his crown. Thanks for the words Jorma.

  19. johno
    April 21st, 2019 at 12:42 | #19

    Happy Easter and Happy Passover to the Tuna Nation
    Easter is my favorite holiday of the year
    Crossing Jordon I need not fear…

  20. John B
    April 22nd, 2019 at 11:40 | #20

    Amen johno. Thank You…..@johno