Photo by Vanessa Kaukonen
July 16, 1929- June 29, 2022 3:15 AM
Sometimes it is so hard to touch the things that matter. Sometimes it is hard to see the things that matter. Sometimes it is difficult to know the things that matter… and sometimes for a moment you see things so clearly that you are almost swamped in a sensory overload.
I have known Vanessa’s mom Virginia a couple of weeks less than Vanessa. She been a part of my life in one way or another for a long time. She joined us here in Ohio almost a decade and a half ago after her second husband passed. She was Virginia to me and Grammy to the kids. Five or six years ago it became apparent that she was beginning to have cognitive issues and the doctors told us that Alzheimer’s was no longer waiting in the wings, it was beginning to move to center stage. Words cannot adequately express the sorrow one feels watching the essence of one you love recede at an alarming rate leaving only a shell. In Ginny’s case, the who she was drifted away leaving only the what and that too became more ephemeral with each passing day.
Because of Covid restrictions and such I never got a chance to visit her but we did write a letter or two. At 3:20 this morning Vanessa got the call that she had just passed and in that moment her pain was over.
If there is a better place… Virginia is there now.
May your memory be a blessing!