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The Last Journey

October 20th, 2011 Leave a comment Go to comments
A Road In The Autumn Of Life

A Road In The Autumn Of Life

My dear friend Barry Mitterhoff’s mother Nettee made her final journey on this earth yesterday. I remember meeting Nettee almost ten years ago. She was an amazing woman… full of life and curiosity. I felt that she was checking me out to make sure that my interaction with Barry would be good for him. I hope we were able to put her mind at rest. Imagine how much of the world’s history one gets to be a part of in ninety years. I had not seen Nettee in a couple of years but I always asked Barry to remember me to her. I don’t think she remembered my name but Barry always told me that she knew who I was… and what’s in a name anyway? Our friend Gayle sent me this:

‘Nettee Waranch Mitterhoff, 92, of Scotch Plains, NJ died on Thursday, October 19, 2011 at Overlook Medical Center in Summit, N.J. A memorial service will be held at 3:00 PM, Thursday, October 27th at Menorah Chapels of Millburn, 2950 Vauxhall Road, Vauxhall, NJ. (908)964-1500. Shiva will be observed by family and friends that afternoon and evening at the home of her son, Barry, in Scotch Plains.

Nettee was born in Newark, NJ and lived most of her life in Springfield, NJ. She moved to Scotch Plains in 2004. Nettee was among the first classes to graduate from Weequahic High School and briefly attended Newark College before working at Bambergers in Newark. She worked alongside her husband Murray as the bookeeper in his printing business, Modern Offset for many years before returning to retail at B. Altman’s in Short Hills.

Nettee is survived by her sons Barry of Scotch Plains and Michael of Atlantic City, grandchildren Tessa, Lily & Maya of Scotch Plains, Dawn of Bound Brook and Michael and his wife Nadine of Brick Township and great grandchildren Paige, Melissa and Michael also of Brick Township. She is also survived by her sister Sylvia Reuben of Bridgewater and sister-in-law, Connie Mitterhoff of Manchester, NJ in addition to many neices and nephews.

Nettee volunteered at the Community Food Bank of New Jersey and at the polls during elections during her retirement. She enjoyed crossword puzzles and spending time with family. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Nettee’s name to the Community Foodbank of New Jersey, www.njfoodbank.org.’

It seems small in a way to remember a full life with a few paragraphs, but that is just the way it is. She was a heck of a woman! I consider it a privilege the have known her. My thoughts and prayers are with her family… and Nettee if there is such a place and you see my Mom, tell her I miss her.

‘Many Houses

In many houses
all at once
I see my mother and father
and they are young as they walk in

Why should my
tears come,
to see them laughing

That they cannot
see me
is of no matter:

I was once
their dream:
they are mine.’

(From the Kol Haneshama)

Into The Light

Into The Light

Rest well Nettee!

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  1. Brett
    October 20th, 2011 at 10:50 | #1

    Condolences to Barry

    92…..from the Roaring 20’s to the 21st century and all in between…Wow!

  2. October 20th, 2011 at 11:07 | #2

    Our hearts and prayers go out to Barry and his family.

  3. October 20th, 2011 at 11:50 | #3

    May she be at peace. Our good thoughts and prayers are with Barry and all his family.

  4. Cyndy Consentino
    October 20th, 2011 at 12:21 | #4

    Condolences to Barry and his family .
    His mom lived a good, full and honest life.
    May she rest in peace.

  5. October 20th, 2011 at 14:10 | #5

    Condolences to Barry and his family.

  6. Joe from DC
    October 20th, 2011 at 16:16 | #6

    Condolences to Barry
    please pas it on Jorma
    a long life 4 sure

  7. Bake
    October 20th, 2011 at 19:58 | #7

    In my short encounters with Barry ,I found him to be a good listener and a gentleman, a wonderful testimony to what must have been a great gal. Fly free!

  8. Jim Tulgan
    October 20th, 2011 at 20:16 | #8

    Jorma, please pass on my condolences. Sounds as though she had a full & wonderful journey!

  9. mutt
    October 21st, 2011 at 07:16 | #9

    My deepest condolences to you and your family Barry. What an accomplishment – 92 glory years!

    Love and Prayers

  10. carlo pagliano
    October 21st, 2011 at 07:39 | #10

    Mothers never die, their smiles and their love since they raised us is imperishable, we are made of that milk of free love. They leave before us, they taught us everything when we were able to do nothing, we spent a great starting time with our moms, their big eyes full of love for us are the first thing we saw in this world A great man has always a great mom.
    We from here are deeply close to Barry!

  11. Steve Finkelstein
    October 21st, 2011 at 11:39 | #11

    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

    May G-d comfort Barry and his family among the remnant mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.

  12. John R.
    October 22nd, 2011 at 08:19 | #12

    Thoughts and prayers to Barry and his family.

  13. Tony T
    October 25th, 2011 at 08:16 | #13

    Condolences to the family.
    For those who are moved and able to do something==Donations to the Community food bank of NJ have been requested in her name

  14. October 29th, 2011 at 15:54 | #14

    My thoughts and prayers are with the Mitterhoff family. She seems to have been a great woman and will surely be greatly missed, but with fond remembrances

  15. Iana CraneWing
    February 23rd, 2012 at 18:58 | #15

    Thank you for sharing that beautiful poem Jorma. It describes a tender and universal state of reflection and I will treasure it and share it often.
    My partner saw your show in Camden last night (Geoff, the stoolmaker), and he has been walking around in an inspired haze all day! Sorry I missed it. Walk in Beauty